My date...well, part 1 of it!

:: ..so like many other women in this world…I am single, and a mother. A happy single mother who is perfectly fine with being whole, and single… but at times yearns and desires DEEPLY for God to hurrrrry and bring that man of God to my doorstep..lol….Anyone that says they are completely ok with being single, and  that they don’t desire to have a man or woman in their life, may say it and believe it for the time being, but there is always a desire for a relationship. After all we were created for relationships…our first and most important one being with God….I had kind of kissed dating goodbye a few months ago. …Simply bc the last guy I “dated”  was …whew….let’s just not go there…ha! Well…as with the territory of being single, you are goin to be given the opportunity to “date”…. And I’ll admit, I kind of hate the way it sounds…I’d rather say hang out… I’d rather not date at all….but how on Earth will I ever know if God has sent someone if I never take the time to find out…adventurous Monica is what I’d like to call myself when I “date”…lol

…well, as most know...I went on a “date” last Friday and had a great time…..I will admit, I struggled to say yes….why?...I have to say that it’s bc the bible talks about guarding our hearts….if we open it up to just whatever, and especially  whoever, we may be setting  ourselves up for hurt, rejection and lies…that’s how the enemy works…wrong relationships...any who…on to my date…lol….I work with this guy, who’s name starts with an E..lol…and one day he walked into my lil office area and says, “Monica, how long have you been married?”…ummm, I’m not married... “Really, you weren’t married to your daughter’s dad?”…no. “ So you’re single?”…Yeah dude…”Oh!”…..let’s say  two weeks later he comes in yet again and says, “Snookie! (the silly nickname I got for being loud)…I have a friend I want you to meet!” No, I don’t want to meet anyone…thinking to myself…if this guy is anything like him…he wears taco hats, boots with a point as tall as me, he drinks, probably has no church in him, and ummm yeah…not my type…”Why not, he’s a heck of a guy, he like to go fishing!!! …..lol..lol…lol…fishing?...ok. Hey fishing is better than bar hopping or sleeping around….lol…I ignored him….and the next day he came  in AGAIN, determined to get my number for his friend….”Omg dude, I’m gonna give it to you, but tell him to text, and if he blows up my phone, I won’t talk to him at all….lol!” “Ok Snookie!”…smh I thought,  OMG…what did I just do… :/……….Surprisingly, this guy text me within 30 minutes…lol…and since then, we text, talked on the phone, text more, emailed and basically got to know each other a bit that way…..it continued that way for about three weeks…and finally the “date” was set………

…..every other Friday,  I take SJ half way  to Lubbock so she can see her daddy. Well, after dropping her off with her grandparents, I headed back to Hobbs to help plan my friend’s wedding and thinking …”this would be a perfect reason to cancel the date…you know you want to hang out with your friends anyway… do you really think you’ll finish all the planning in an hour?”.....OMG!  SHUT UP…. just ask him if you can move it up an hour……ughhhhh ok……in a text I wrote....”Hey, think we can meet at 9 instead of 8…blah, blah, blah….lol?”…his response……”Absolutely, I’ve got a couple things to do in a bit!! So please don’t rush!”……..dude, that was easy I said……I arrived at my friend’s house and TRIED to be a part of the wedding planning……..lol…. but as the butter flies and NERVES took over, I found myself sitting alone, with two of my friends, praying to myself and doing everything I could not to text and say “hey I can’t make it”….but since God is so good, he nudged me to to talk about it with my friends…… errrrrrrrrrrr……immediately I was relieved ….my phone time hit 8:45pm, so I said goodbye to my friends, gave a few goodbye hugs and got in my car……..

 :) come back tomorrow for ALLL the details..........aghhhh!!!!!!

loves

~Monica

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